Baby showers are what you make of them. They can be a chance to share joy while getting awesome, useful presents. They can also be more of a fuss than a mom-to-be is up for. Before you decide whether to have a baby shower, think about some pros and cons.
Pro: Quality Time
A baby shower is an opportunity to spend time with your loved ones, including friends and relatives you haven’t seen in a while. Nowadays, it’s tough to make sure you see the people you love as often as you’d like.
Because baby showers are special events, people will make sure to pencil your gathering into their calendars. You’ll receive support and advice from the people you love most.
Con: Boring or Stressful Socializing
On the other hand, the guest list can quickly get away from you. Especially if you’re not the one doing the planning, you might wind up in a room full of people you rarely see… because you want to see them as rarely as possible.
In that case, you might get not-so-wonderful advice from people who barely know you, gifts from folks with questionable taste, and intrusive questions.
Keep an eye on the guest list. If you aren’t in the mood to be a social butterfly, insist on a small party. Sometimes well-intentioned party planners think they know best, so don’t feel bad about saying no to things if you feel like it.
You’ll get some great stuff. As you may know, babies have a habit of draining their parents’ bank accounts. Diapers, wipes, cradles, cribs, bibs, bottles — the list of baby-related necessities goes on. As the list gets longer, your expendable income gets smaller.
If you’re a first-time parent, you might not even know everything you need. Long-time parents can give you things that you may never have thought of yourself.
No matter how well you organize your baby shower registry or how clear you are about what you want, somebody will get you things you neither want nor need. Many people feel that buying from registries is impersonal. You’ll probably have guests who prefer to give you their idea of a good gift instead of your idea of a good gift.
That can be great from someone who knows you well and is a present-picker extraordinaire but not so great from someone else. On the bright side, you don’t have to keep everything. You can donate, exchange, or return items.
Get ready to pretend you like any present you open, but remind yourself that you don’t actually have to use everything you get. However, even if you’re unsure about a present, keep an open mind. You might end up needing something that you initially thought was pointless.
Pro: Doesn’t Have To Be Your First
You can have a baby shower even if this isn’t your first baby. Though many people once considered it rude, most now understand that each new baby deserves to be celebrated and needs new things. If you already have one or more children, that doesn’t mean you’ve held onto everything or that your bank account is limitless.
If you still feel weird about having an all-out baby shower bash, host a smaller party. Let everyone know you only want low-key necessities like wipes and diapers.
Con: Attention and Energy
If you don’t want attention or aren’t up to a party, a baby shower might be a headache. Though baby showers are technically about your upcoming little one, your little one isn’t here yet. That leaves you as the focal point of attention.
Baby showers often include games and other high-energy activities, but many pregnant women are short on energy. Some even have medical complications requiring bed rest.
It’s okay if you aren’t interested in a baby shower. Even if your parent or best friend or whoever else insists, it’s still okay to refuse a party.
Baby showers can be a blast, but they can also be stressful. If you’re excited to have one, go for it. If you’re not, skip it — the people who love you will give help and support without a party, and you’ll still end up with a beautiful new baby.